Don’t Hold Your Breath or You Will Lose Your Voice

I was kind of shocked to see that it’s already been one and a half month since I last posted anything here. Yes, I admit, the current events still make me hold my breath, but I am slowly realising that this won’t change until November at least, so probably the worst I could do in times like these would be to lose my voice.

While my past weeks have been super busy both with work and university, and with private stuff, I have still found the time to be vocal about issues dear to me. Mostly on Facebook, though, so apologies for neglecting my blog.

It feels like it has recently become a pastime of mine to argue with people on Facebook. Usually, I made a point of staying out of online arguments, but times like these and the issues at hand are too important to me to stay silent when I read bullshit like “Trump is pretty liberal”. Yes, this is an actual comment I read on Facebook. Yes, you bet your ass I replied to that. And I tell you, it wasn’t pretty. Of course, I was personally insulted as stupid when I questioned his definition of “liberal”, and even after quoting a dictionary definition (with link to the source) to him, he argued on. So I challenged him to post a source for the definition of “liberal” that, in his opinion, matches Trump. Let’s just say, it is kind of sad when you get proof that a grown man has no reading comprehension whatsoever, because quote a source he did, and it described “liberal” accurately as being “tolerant” and about “maximum individual freedom”. None of which is remotely true about Donald Trump (unless you’re a white, cis male who shares his views).

So while I would like nothing better than to crawl in bed, pull the blanket over my head (figuratively because it’s far too hot for that!) and pretend nothing of this is actually happening, I won’t hold my breath any longer. I won’t risk losing my voice because I’m too shocked to say anything. I will continue to voice my opinions, and I will continue to argue with people on social media. They can unfriend/unfollow me if they don’t like it. Or block me. Just like I’ve already unfriended a bunch of people I hardly knew anyway, whose opinions in this election cycle (US) I grew tired of reading because they made me angry, or frustrated at the ignorance, or scared for our world’s future, or all of that at once.

So let’s be vocal and try to open people’s eyes before it is too late!


Pro Life vs. Pro Choice? Pro Women’s Rights!

I usually try to stay out of heated debates like this, but maybe that’s the problem. Maybe not enough of us are actually voicing our opinion, demanding to be heard, demanding our rights.

Yes, you guessed right, I’m pro choice. And I’ll tell you why.

This whole discussion shouldn’t be about fetal rights, it should be about women’s rights. What most people are doing is discussing the aggressors, and whether or not they should be allowed to continue. Whether or not they are worthy of protection from their victims. The aggressors that seize control of their victims’ bodies, force their victims’ bodies to adjust and accomodate them even if that means causing harm to the bodies. They feed off their victims, heck, they may even threaten their victims’ lives.

And yet, if one of those victims tries to get rid of the aggressor, if they try to get control of their own bodies back, they are labelled murderers. They are shamed, they are threatened, they are told the actions of the aggressor were their own fault. You know what that reminds me of? Rape and the victim-blaming our society is so quick with.

“Well, what did you expect, going out dressed like that?”, sounds pretty much like this: “Well, what did you expect, having sex?”

It’s blaming the victims for what happened to them, and thus putting all the blame of their following actions on them as well. Those poor, poor aggressors. How dare you report him for raping you? You’ll ruin his life with this! How dare you get an abortion? You’ll kill the fetus with this!

Stop! Stop blaming the victims, stop shaming them into letting others use their bodies and be quiet about it. If a woman gets an abortion, it’s not murder. It’s self-defense. It’s the woman exerting her right to not let anyone use her body in any way without her consent. Sadly, you can’t just talk to a fetus to let go, to go away. You have to use some form of violence that will, as a result, kill the fetus.

Some pro-life activists cite the very same law that I will cite: The right to life and physical integrity. Just with one major difference: I acknowledge that the fetus violates the woman’s right to life and physical integrity before she even has a chance to violate his. Thus, a woman getting an abortion is acting in self-defense, trying to protect her life and physical integrity that is guaranteed to her by human rights. To deny this right of self-defense to her would open the door to every aggressor suing every victim that ever dared to fight back, that dared not to comply with having done to him or her whatever the aggressor wanted. Thus, it would completely hollow out the very right pro-life activists are trying to use to defend the aggressor’s life.

That being said, yes, I’m pro choice. Because that’s the only logical choice if you believe in human rights and in protecting victims while punishing the aggressors of crimes. Every woman should have the right to choose whether she wants to carry out a fetus or not, because denying her that right would mean denying her a basic human right. And no, this decision has NOTHING to do with whether the woman knowingly risked the aggression (in this case, had sex). Stop blaming the victims. Human rights don’t come with a caveat of “well, only if she behaved properly and morally in the beliefs of group X”. Human rights are universal, and the only way to partially and temporarilly lose them is to break them in the first place. That’s why self-defense laws exist. To give us the power to defend our human rights against aggressors.

Die Flüchtlinge verändern unser Land? Ja, bitte!

Immer wieder lese ich Schreckensszenarien von Leuten, die Angst haben, dass die vielen Flüchtlinge unser Land und unsere Gesellschaft verändern könnten. Wenn nachgewiesen wird, dass ein Flüchtling eine Straftat begangen hat, heißt es sofort: “Haben wir es doch gewusst, die scheren sich nicht um unsere Gesetze!” Nach den Vorfällen in Köln werden Stimmen laut, die schreien: “Kein Wunder, deren Kultur hat ja auch ein völlig krankes Frauenbild!” Wenn man den Leuten zuhört, die am lautesten schreien, bekommt man den Eindruck, diese Flüchtlinge seien alles zukünftige Straftäter, Sozialschmarotzer, Terroristen und überhaupt weniger wertvolle Menschen. Flüchtlingsunterkünfte anzünden, in denen zu dem Zeitpunkt Flüchtlinge schlafen? Frauen, Männer, Kinder? Kein Problem, die müssen weg. Menschenleben und Menschenwürde scheinen nur für die etwas wert zu sein, die “zu uns” gehören. Also Christen, Deutsche, Weiße.

Dieses “uns”, das bewahrt und geschützt werden soll, ist nicht meins. Ich möchte nicht zu einer Gruppe Menschen gezählt werden, für die es inzwischen zum guten Ton gehört, gegen andere Menschengruppen zu hetzen. Ich möchte nicht zu einer Gruppe Menschen gehören, die es in Ordnung finden, anderen Menschen die Tür vor der Nase zuzuschlagen und Hilfe zu verweigern, nur weil diese Menschen anders scheinen. Ich möchte nicht zu einer Gruppe Menschen gehören, die kein Problem damit haben, die Taten Einzelner sofort auf die Gesamtheit einer anderen Religion oder einer anderen Staatsangehörigkeit zu übertragen, aber sich zutiefst unfair behandelt fühlen, wenn es jemand bei ihnen versucht.

Ich möchte zu einer Gruppe Menschen gehören, die sich bemühen, anderen Menschen vorurteilsfrei und offen gegenüberzutreten. Ich möchte zu einer Gruppe Menschen gehören, die andere Glaubensrichtungen respektieren und das Recht auf freie Religionswahl schützen. Ich möchte zu einer Gruppe Menschen gehören, für die sich der Wert eines Menschenlebens nicht nach Hautfarbe, Herkunft, Geschlecht oder Religion richtet.

Und wenn es den Zustrom von hunterttausenden Flüchtlingen benötigt, damit sich in unserem Land endlich etwas ändert, dann ist das so. Lasst uns endlich lauter werden als die Stimmen des anderen “uns”. Lasst uns von Toleranz und Menschlichkeit reden, wo andere Hass predigen. Lasst uns Offenheit und Nächstenliebe leben, wo andere versuchen Angst zu schüren. Lasst uns gemeinsam dieses Land zu einem Land machen, das auf gegenseitigem Respekt, Toleranz und Hilfsbereitschaft beruht und dass die Menschenrechte achtet. Lasst uns gemeinsam Menschenwürde wieder zum höchsten und zu einem unantastbaren Gut machen. Denn so steht es nicht umsonst in unserem Grundgesetz.